Hey friends! π
Today we are going to talk about a topic which is very useful in life, but we are not taught properly in school-college β Emotional Intelligence.
1οΈβ£ What is this?
Look, everyone knows IQ (Intelligence Quotient) β it means how sharp the brain is, maths, logic, GK etc.
But EQ i.e. Emotional Quotient is a little different.
It tells that β
How well you understand your and othersβ feelings
How do you handle those feelings
Anger, sadness, happiness, tension β the right use and control of all this.
In simple, balance of heart + brain = EQ β€οΈπ§
2οΈβ£ Why is this important?
Friend, only studies are not enough in life.
Suppose you are very studious, but are not able to talk to anyone properly, or get angry on small things β then people will stay away from you.
What happens with Emotional Intelligence is that:
Relationships become better
Productivity increases in work
Confidence comes
Stress reduces
Leadership skills grow πͺ
3οΈβ£ 5 big pillars of EQ
A psychologist named Daniel Goleman had told the 5 pillars of EQ. Let’s understand in simple language β
π (1) Self-Awareness
Means recognizing your mood, emotions and their reason.
Example β If you are getting angry, then instead of just getting angry, think about why it is happening, and how to control it.
π (2) Self-Regulation
It is easy to say the wrong thing in anger, but a person with EQ reacts thoughtfully.
Example β Boss scolded you? Instead of immediately speaking back, calm down and think what can be improved.
π (3) Motivation
Motivation that comes from within more than money, fame or name.
Example β Working hard for your own goals without any pressure.
π (4) Empathy
Thinking by putting yourself in someone’s place.
Example β If a friend is sad, listen to him and understand, don’t just start your topic.
π (5) Social Skills
Listening well, clear communication, teamwork – all these are parts of EQ.
Example β Completing a project in the office with the teams.
4οΈβ£ EQ vs IQ β What is more important in life?
With IQ you can solve problems, do maths, but with EQ you can win peopleβs hearts.
In todayβs world EQ β₯ IQ, because people connect only through emotions.
Leaders like Steve Jobs, Ratan Tata led not only with their minds but also with their hearts β€οΈ
5οΈβ£ Ways to increase EQ π‘
β (1) Practice Mindfulness π§
Meditate for 5-10 minutes every day, focus on your breathing. This increases self-awareness.
β (2) Listen before judging
Listen to people completely, then give your opinion.
β (3) Write down your feelings βοΈ
Write in your diary what made you happy, sad or angry today.
β (4) Learn to pause βΈοΈ
If an emotional situation arises, do not react immediately. Take a breath for 10 seconds, then respond.
β (5) Think from others’ point of view
If you have an argument with someone, put yourself in his place and think.
6οΈβ£ Magic of EQ in real life β¨
π In office β teamwork, good relations, stress handling
π In friendship β less misunderstandings, more trust
π In relationships β strong bond with the habit of listening and understanding
π In studies β focus and motivation
7οΈβ£ Side effects of low EQ π¬
If EQ is low then:
Quarrels over small things
More stress
Less friends, more enemies
Lack of self-control
8οΈβ£ Identity of people with high EQ π
Calm and positive
Good at listening
Balance even in difficult times
Inspiring people
9οΈβ£ Final Thought π
Friends, Emotional Intelligence is not something that is given by birth, it can be learned by practice. The more you understand your own and others’ emotions, the easier and happier life will be.
So, give equal space to both β heart and mind β€οΈπ§
